Clients have wondered if it’s possible to “do therapy wrong”. If the you in our session is here to find meaning, healing and connection- how could that be wrong? In your session with me, I want you to feel comfortable, welcome and safe to tell your story. I know our time together each week is brief. I want you to leave each session with a little less fear, a little more hope and a lot more self compassion.
The you in session is the only you I see. Despite my clients sharing broad stroke similarities, I do my best to see your unique cultural, familial and environmental backgrounds. Your way of seeing the world, individual struggles and strengths are special to you. Hence, special to me. What is similar amongst you and your caseload counterparts, is that each of you are brave, hopeful and seek therapy for growth and change.
At times you might wonder about me, who I am in the world- out of session. This is our normal curiosity. I know this from my own experience as a curious client in session. You may be curious about my family life, book collection on the shelf or why my hair never seems quite "done.” (I wonder about that as well.) While in my twenties I had an immensely helpful therapist. I’d often wonder why she seemed to have a long standing cold. Was it allergies? She would clutch her tea mug and made profound insights accompanied with an orchestra of sneezes. She was a lovely person and effective psychologist with an unfortunate perpetual pink nose. Her help was invaluable and worth every penny I paid as a struggling new graduate. I never volunteered the idea of her trying a neti pot (but wanted to). So wonder away about therapists outside of session, clients often do.
My dear, the you in session will never be doing therapy “wrong.” I don’t always get things exactly right, and fumble my words more often than I’d like, but hope to help you make the complexities of life more manageable. The part of you in session is sacred, tender and here to heal.